So, you’ve been medically checked out and the doctor says you are just fine but fat. You don’t have to take any medication and you are free to begin. Sun Tzu, a great ancient Chinese writer and general, said, (I’m paraphrasing here I can’t remember the quote) if you know your self and know your enemy you will always win, if you know yourself but don’t know the enemy you will win half the time and if you know the enemy and not yourself you will win half the time.
Knowing your self is the best place to start. This is going to be an arduous task. Remembering the past, your emotional responses and how you dealt with difficult events is a hard thing to do. I don’t believe that diets work. Diets obviously work as techniques to lose weight but not as a solution to the problem. If they did the phenomena of the yo-yo dieter would not exist. People could go on one diet, be successful and go on to the rest of their life in blissful skinniness. That doesn’t happen in the main.
I believe that people get obese not just overweight as a result of emotions and using food to deal with those emotions. I was fat because I ate for comfort, Then I sat at a desk for 30 plus years. So there was a practical aspect reason for being fat as well. I am not going to go into reasons, that’s another story. We all have a back story and we know deep down why we do what we do.
So what are your reasons? Think on that and meditate. Once you get past the reaction of going through negative memories you should be able to pick out the emotional states that led to over eating. Once you do that and can change that response in your current life, you will be able to lose fat and keep it off. I said that like its not a big deal, didn’t I? Well it is, what you are doing is stopping the direction your life is going, and heading off into the frontier of a new life.
Fortunately you don’t have to do this all at once. You can start your weight loss now and do the hard emotional and thinking work while you are walking. I found that the best way for me to do this is to write down what I ate and when I ate for a week. I also wrote down the reason why I ate or drank what I wrote down. Once you get into this habit you can say to yourself, Stop. I am not eating because I am hungry. I am eating because so and so pissed me off or whatever reason you have. You can then not eat. Also you get the benefit of addressing and resolving the problem which triggered the reaction.
You will find out why you do what you do. You will also lose some negative and caustic people and you will gain more positive ones. Or at least that’s how it worked for me.